How build and keep trust with others
Trust is easy to spend but hard to keep.
Do you trust your team? Better yet, does your team trust you?
The research case for trust is clear: Employees who are less trusted by their managers exert less effort, are less productive, and are more likely to leave the organization. Employees who do feel trusted are higher performers who go above and beyond role expectations. Plus, when employees feel their supervisors trust them to get key tasks done, they have greater confidence in the workplace and perform at a higher level.
In any given workplace, there are various degrees of trust, from the most essential (knowledge) to the most profound (safety). Trust is built from the ground up and reaches its pinnacle when we feel secure enough to just be ourselves.
Over the years, I’ve come to realize a not-so-tiny truth about trust:
You only get what you give.
If you want your employees (or your friends or family members, for that matter) to trust you, show that you trust them.
Easier said than done. But here are are a few ways you can forge high-trust relationships at work (and beyond) to create happier, healthier dynamics between you and others.
Trust, but verify
First, don’t assume that your employees have placed their trust in you. Learn to read their trust levels by understanding the risks and vulnerabilities they face. Take an inventory of the practices, policies, and controls found in your organization. When you look at policies from the perspective of the employee, are they designed to engage employees or to protect the organization from them? The picture may surprise you.
Give some ground
Earning trust is best achieved through a series of incremental steps, like adequately scoping assignments, granting resource authority, and showing a healthy tolerance for mistakes. Rather than taking harsh corrective action, treat employee mistakes as opportunities to facilitate learning. People won’t trust you if they can’t be themselves around you.
Proactively partner up
If you want people to trust you, it’s crucial to communicate openly and honestly with them. Managers are often reluctant to share information and explain their decisions for fear of premature leaks, second-guessing, or dissension. Being transparent signals that you trust people with the truth, even in difficult circumstances. Trust can’t live in the dark.
How leaders can build trust
Leaders get the trust they deserve. If they commit to trust-building behaviors, they’ll create high-trust environments. People will do better work and feel better about the work they do. By contrast, leaders who practice trust-busting behaviors will end up producing low-trust (or even zero-trust) cultures where people wither and withdraw. The list of trust-busting behavior is long and varied, so let’s focus on the trust-building behaviors that get the best results.
- Tell the truth
- Be honest when sharing information, even if it it’s to your disadvantage
- Use truthful nonverbal communication
- Talk to your team members in an honest, meaningful way
- Listen deeply for what’s being said (and what’s left unsaid)
- If you have important or relevant information, share it immediately with the team
- Have important conversations face-to-face
- Share non-work related stories, quips, videos, memes with coworkers to build a sense of comity and community
- Get together outside the office, if possible
- Take an interest in things that interest your coworkers
Trust is hard to earn and even harder to keep. But if we carefully consider how our actions (direct and unintentional) play into people’s decision to trust us, we’ll not only do a better job at reading the trust landscape, our work and relationships will be better off.